The Importance of Etiquette. A modern lady’s Guide to Etiquette
Once, etiquette for ladies covered the finer points of social behavior such as posture, how to hold cutlery and the correct dress code for a party. Today’s women on the other hand have a very different set of rules to follow.
For modern girls, etiquette is more about being gracious without looking weird, not snooping at other people’s phones and definitely not getting drunk at dinner parties. As you have probably noticed, some people nowadays argue that etiquette no longer matters, that the rules for good behavior are old-fashioned and out of date.
When most people hear the word ‘lady’ they think of a boring old-fashioned, female, who forgot how to have fun and is neither successful nor ambitious. Especially with some of the ‘role models’ trending today, being a lady is not something that most young females aspire to be.
However, we at BlancReverie believe that good behavior and manners will never go out of style. Like all other cultural behaviors, etiquette also evolves to match the eras. Being kind and polite will always matter!
Why does it matter?
Along many other reasons, etiquette provides personal security. Knowing how to behave in a given situation makes you much more comfortable. Furthermore, it protects the feelings of others. If you are capable of behaving the right way, you will be able to make others feel comfortable around you.
It also makes communication clearer. Etiquette improves communication by breaking down barriers and not creating them.
It will enhance your status at work. In any work situation, you will be perceived as more talented, more professional, and more intelligent if you are familiar with the proper code of conduct for the workplace.
Last but not least, it can help you make good first impressions. The first five to seven seconds after you meet someone are perceived to be crucial. Your first impression remains in the other person’s mind long after you leave. If you use proper etiquette, that first impression will be a positive one.
Keep in mind that etiquette is meant to be a guideline, not a set of strict rules carved into stone. Those guidelines are developed using common sense, a sense of fairness, politeness, and above all, consideration for others. If you let consideration for others be your final negotiator, you will be well on your way to being the polite person who understands the rules of etiquette instinctively.
Why do The Little Things Matter?
An etiquette guide cannot address every possible situation you will face as you move through life. There are numerous states in life when you will have the opportunity to face challenging situations which will reveal your true character. Use them to practice small kindness. Each little act may improve someone else’s life, at least a little bit. That person may pass it on to someone else, so take the time to show sympathy to strangers.
Never forget to say ‘thank you’. Open the door for someone whose hands are full. Hold the elevator for someone who is rushing to catch it. Offer your place in line to someone with just a few items. Help a co-worker who is behind on a project.
If each of us practices small gestures of etiquette every day to those around us, the domino effect will quickly spread, making life much better for all of us.
Although knowing the etiquette rules doesn’t automatically make you a lady, it is for sure a good way to start. A lady is a woman who is refined, polite, and well-spoken, it doesn’t simply mean having etiquette, but also self-respect, class and appreciation.
If you are asking yourself ‘How do I become a lady?’ or maybe you are wondering if you are acting like one, here are some of the top etiquette rules for ladies that still apply today.
5 Etiquette Rules That Still Apply Today
Watch your language
Know your audience and know what language you can use and when, this is something a lady needs to be aware of. You might have your little swear words, but it is not really appropriate or lady-like to swear when you are in certain settings (can’t really think of many situations where it actually is appropriate), so be mindful of your language and adapt to the circumstances.
Keep your promises
We all know at least one girl who never keeps her promises, and we all know how irritating that is. Don’t be that girl. People should know that your word is your promise and they are able to trust you.
Make a good first impression
There’s only one chance at making a good first impression, so make sure you do your best to be remembered as the girl with an award-winning smile and not the girl who loves pizza a little too much. Be approachable and have a positive attitude towards people, there’s always a chance you don’t really know who you’re entertaining.
Phone on silent, preferably in your bag
Although we live in the era of ‘phone in hand – always’, make sure that you do put it away when talking to someone. Once you are out in public you should also put it on silent, no one wants to hear that thing beeping on every Instagram notification, trust me. When you have company, your phone should be in your bag. When you expect a call, or want to check something on your phone, you should inform your company before hand and keep it short, other than that, phone in bag!
Dress to impress
Dressing well and dressing appropriately are two totally different things. Whenever you decide on what to wear, always think ahead of the environment you will be in. If you are uncertain of specific dress requirements, go a bit overdressed instead of the other way around. Your outfit will speak before you even say a word, so always make sure your clothes are clean and ironed to perfection.